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Are you happy? | The Self Esteem Builder

Are you happy?

 

A recent study shows that people who follow these below traits on a daily basis, are truly HAPPY! Let’s try these out for ourselves!

 

1. Love themselves for who they are

On the surface this may sound incredibly egotistical, but by it means that they are truly comfortable in their own shoes. They accept, and embrace themselves physically, they maintain their true character traits regardless of whether, or not they receive approval, and they work to make the best of the human experience they are living rather than wallow in what others would define as weaknesses, or shortcomings.

 

‪2. See relationships an extension to, rather than the basis of the human experience

Relationships, whether friendly, familial, or romantic, are certainly one of the greatest parts of the human experience. However, far too many of us let their presence, or absence, and even more so the value we attribute to them dictate our overall happiness in life. I’ve found that genuinely happy people tend to find complete contentment within themselves, and see all relationships as the awesome extension to their self-content. It’s often when we are not looking for others to fill a particular void, or to make us feel a certain way, that most of the truest and most valuable relationships are formed.

 

‪3. Embrace change

Life is a constant lesson, and happy people tend to be well aware of that. Not only are they always open to change, but they truly listen to suggestions, respect, and consider all opinions, as well as, take criticism constructively rather than offensively.

 

‪4. Celebrate rather than compare themselves to the accomplishments of others

Jealousy is a killer, and as Gary Allan once said, “You can be the moon, and still be jealous of the stars.” We are all capable of accomplishing anything in this life and, are the only ones that are going to find the drive within ourselves to do it. Rather than observe, and compare to those who have accomplished, the truly happy tend to celebrate it, and use it as motivation to accomplish things within their own lives.

 

‪5. Never dwell in being a victim

We’ve all been the so-called ‘victim’ to several things in life. Whether it be an unexpected break-up, getting fired from a job, or even something, as serious as, the recipient of domestic abuse. Truly happy people tend to be those who choose not to dwell in it. They choose to let the victimization strengthen them, rather than wear it, as a badge of weakness, or as the thing that makes them consistently worthy of receiving sympathy.

 

‪6. They live in the present

As fun as, reminiscing about the past, or fantasizing about the future can be, nothing will ever be done in anything but the present, and happy people tend to realize that. Not only do they realize it, but they tend to use it, as motivation to make the most of it. In addition to being motivating, presence can also come in handy for truly appreciating those moments of relaxation, allowing yourself to be truly in them, rather than projecting future concerns into them.

 

‪7. Trust that everything happens for a reason

This can very easily be paired with the choice to not be a victim, but happy people tend to trust the process and, existence of everything in their life. They know that nothing is ever too big to handle, and choose to embrace what life is currently throwing at them rather than cowering at the sight of it.

 

‪8. They don’t let money dictate their lives

Nobody is denying that in this world right now we all need money to exist, and as a result, many of us spend the bulk of our lives doing things that help us earn it. What I’ve found to differentiate happy people is that they don’t let money be the ultimate dictator in their life. They still make sensible choices within their means, but they never let money: A) prevent them from pursuing a so-called “risky” passion, B) be the factor that is blamed for why their life is so miserable, C) complain about how little they have. There are creative ways to do everything in this world, and seeing money as, only being possible to make in the standard ways is the most crippling thing to that creativity.

 

‪9. Look within for solutions

One of the most powerful realizations a genuinely happy person will often operate based on is “change starts within.” The empowerment that comes, as a result of not only realizing this but even more so in using it as the backbone to everything in life can be quite remarkable. There are thousands of books, mantras, techniques, and practices out there that can all help us to find solutions to so many things in life, but they all require one thing to truly be serviceable: the consciousness to support them.

 

After implementing these see how you feel, and re-evaluate to see what you can do to improve yourself further.

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